Parents who take the time to understand their kids will find that they don’t have to become police, judge, and jury. They don’t have to keep fixing problems. They just have to understand and leave it to the kids to work through it.
More than almost anything else, our children want to be understood. When our kids feel that we understand them, they seem to be able to cope with the world.
Attunement in Relationships
To really tune in to our children’s emotions requires more than a simple ‘cognitive’ recognition – although that’s part of it. Our children need us to do a couple of additional things to show that we really understand and are attuned to their emotional world.